Edging

With the pausing method, you completely stop all touch just before orgasm. When the feeling of impending orgasm is completely gone, you start over again from the beginning. This approach can take the longest but women who swear by it say that it leads to the most intense pleasure.

The break can be anywhere from a minute to a few hours, depending on what works best for you. When you start again, begin with initial warm-up, build-up and approach before stopping at the last moment again.

With the distraction method, you create sudden or intense sensations away from the clit just before climax. This shifts your focus away from the clit and prevents the orgasm. Some women describe the incoming (no pun intended) orgasm like a sneeze that’s building up; and, just as getting startled can prevent a sneeze, it’s the same principle here—the distracting sensations away from the clit prevent the orgasm.

With continuous edging, you walk right up to the orgasm and then, just before it happens, shift to touches away from the clit that are still pleasurable, but aren’t focused enough to actually bring orgasm. After the approaching orgasm fades away, you return to stimulating the clit, or whatever brings you to orgasm.

Continuous edging is much more fluid than the other variations. That’s one reason that it’s preferred by so many women because there can be several smaller and less obvious approaches and withholdings. But there’s no right or wrong way—find the one that works best for you.